Friday, 13 March 2015


 My sister has a friend and he wanted me to do a piece on bleaching but I would rather do a piece on beauty. My friends normally ask me, what do you find attractive in women?  I say "everything". They also ask if I know any ugly woman but I tell them I have never met one and that every woman is beautiful to me. Everyone sees beauty differently so I would not say my take should be everyone's take. I really find it difficult to answer the question of beauty because I see beauty in different shades and in different people. Normally I tend to see beauty in the simple things in life. With women this might sound weird but I love women with messy natural hair that I can just dig my nose in and smell. It is really attractive to me. Some women like to put on all kinds of hair, Brazilian, Peruvian Indian and the lot. In reality they put such hair on to look attractive and pretty. But ask any man and he would not be able to tell you the type of hair you have on because in actual fact it does not matter to him. All that he wants is the beauty of a lady inside. You can have the most expensive synthetic hair on but if your internal beauty does not resonate and speak for you, it would be better off if you were bald. Sometimes people mistake beauty to be external features, yes external features  look attractive but it is the beauty that comes from within which would normally count. Jacqueline Bisset made an observation which I agree with that "character contributes to beauty. It fortifies a woman as her youth fades. A mode of conduct, a standard of courage, discipline, fortitude and integrity can do a great deal to make a woman beautiful". I once boarded a commercial bus with one such externally beautiful and pretty young lady. Her beauty was so striking that it was the first thing you saw when you joined the bus. In the course of our journey the lady realized she had been shortchanged by the conductor. The fury that came from her mouth automatically woke us up from the "trance" her external beauty had put us in. I was shocked to the marrow because I did not expect such words from any lady let alone that ravishingly pretty one. I said to myself, "if people actually looked like their personality, we would have a lot of ugly people in the world". Sometimes a lady's  external beauty can turn out to be her undoing. I realized that most guys are put off by externally "extremely" pretty women who can really dress up. We are afraid first of all of being rejected by them and secondly our reaction when such a thing happens. Sometimes women do not know the things a guy would go through just to be able to speak to a woman he likes. Ladies, it is not that simple like you think. When a guy sees a ravishingly pretty lady, his instinct tells him to either approach her or walk away. The tendency to walk away almost always wins the battle. I do not know for other men but to me if you are pretty keep your dressing simple but decent so it gives us confidence to approach you. Sometimes external beauty scares us so much that we do not even get the chance to explore the internal beauty which should be the main point of attention. To me, every soul, regardless of your external features that has love, patience, humility, respect, an accommodating heart and wisdom is an epitome of true beauty. Everyone is beautiful in their own right. Do not let anyone take your version of beautiful away from you. People fall in love for various reasons and your version of beauty is one of them. Keep doing you because to even classify you as "one in a million" is an understatement because you are one of a kind. You are so beautiful to me because like Aristotle said, "Personal beauty is a greater recommendation than any letter of reference". This is Edwin Oko Lamptey with his RANDOM AFRICAN THOUGHT. More @

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